Blindly date run into so long as the old man of the virgin's civil servant _ is single

Blindly date, run into so long as the old man of the virgin's civil servant _ is single

We knew through blindlying date two months ago, only met, he is 14 years old longer than I, there has been a failed marriage 10 years before, but without childrenned, his former wife is very outstanding, it was once our Vice County Magistrate of the county. He is a civil servant ' The salary is about ten thousand yuan
),Senior engineer, have one pair of master's degrees, speculate in shares at leisure, it is an enterprising person risking one's life very much, there is ideal that can not be finished pursuing forever, at ordinary times, on festivals or holidays, day off, all all idle time is used for studying and earning money to hard, dream of him to go abroad, in the words of he himself, work, study, undertaking upper different fields make great efforts person that develop!
My one's own condition has good manners better, beautiful, personalities are all right, good-natured, it is very pure to look at too, the fashion, the junior college works in a state-owned enterprise after graduating, and then resign, make preparation for pursuing the master degree. Because the resources are all right, it is unnecessary it is anxious to make the food and clothing money. In addition father that heart worshipped very much passed away several years ago, gave me a very great blow, in the past I to be getting more optimistic very optimistic person,though while having a little to,exist for Electra complex I.
His view of choosing spouse is, ignores all natural conditions of the wife's, only require the other side is " girl " ,The disposition is better, frankly speaking just look for a virgin. His former wife is the only woman whom he has contacted, in addition, he has no love, it is a well-behaved person, have not contacted any woman (talk with his own) in the name of love either . He says complex of this virgin of his relates to his former wife, up till now, whether his former wife is the virgin he has not been knowing all the time, causes very great injury to his soul. I am honest to him says I do not accord with this standard of his, let him seek separately. But I hope he can accept I, moving sincerely me. Later, he said his innermost thoughts and feelings, saying although had only met, is expecting to get in touch with me to meet every day. It is learnt that I am not after a virgin, there is nothing unexpected now, he is very sad.
Having had a chat twice on the net later, he said I subverted the thought foundations of more than 40 years of his. Say that accepts me, mean that has given up the values that he forms in 40 years; Refuse me, it is not his original idea. He says he needs some time to review his this life's pursuit,etc.. He says, the question of relation with me, he does not know either how to do, needs thinking alone, do some really but not false change, he pursue idealized thing, live very tiredly, this relates to the fact that he is very greedy. His though study, little and successful on the undertaking, but he fails very much on dealing with the marriage, it is like a fragile child, it is very passive and passive to treat the marriage, is always chased, have not seen who he pursued voluntarily! But he says at the same time, don't think I divorced more than 40 of age, but heart knows clearly the man not so over 20 years old as now yet takes philosophically, it is a typical idealist. I say, say sincerely, sincerity can make metal and stone crack. He says he does not know what is said want.
The looks that he is I blindlied date has been up till now, one with a highest standard, miss, will not appear afterwards, continue waiting, does not seem within the foreseeable future. Should I phone, pass by voluntarily, straightforward to require to act as speaking face to face? Will seem I keep calm a bit, only meet but own after all, has not the relation been held skillfully in place with a net as to canvassed the sensitive topic once meeting? Can not his virgin really put complex? Think and he has a result, how should I go to communicate with him? Say, give up directly?
The expert replies:
A lot of women think: Will make money, enterprising, it is man's greatest advantage.
How much actually, these advantages, put into the marriage, may not be certain to make the woman happy. Because live,it depend on viability of two piece people,but not ability to work.
Do not think this is an ideal marriage target.


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