In love people when be permitted " That _'s unmarried cohabitation

In love people when be permitted " That _'s unmarried cohabitation

Read such a report, say that a girl and a boy is in love, they love it very deeply, then the boy once puts forward to girl and wants intimate relations between man and woman, but girl shy, unwilling to promise, it says to be to want, wait until after the marriage, boy at
It is angry, say, if you love me, the girl did not agree finally, then two people have said good-bye. Draw one topic too, --
Once some scholar said: The sex is related to the fact that the love is. No love getting getting more sufficient more enough,getting more fragile too in emotions to have love sexual. Even say again the two sexes of men and women are longed for and loved but sex, long for, like, the sex is several stages when an emotion is developed and fermented. But to be fair, the statement have a lot of people agree, have people object to even certainly perhaps, difference of age, judge standard to will have completely different view on this while being different different fields. Ask they when permitted in in love people " That one " ,Their answer will be different too.
It is newly-married to leave mystique to A
The king always married in 1960, the class for decades on the state-owned enterprise, retire at home now, live an easy life in old age. His view is more distinct, but will certainly not be until getting all right after getting married " that one " ,Should keep to newly-married mystique, otherwise injurious to public morality. Should say king's old view has represented them that generation's view more or less, because that time when they fell in love, got married, sexual standards of China are not opened, it is treasonable even if people talk about, let alone " that one " (used after a verb to indicate the completion of an action).
Referred to it that year, before king's old state of mind got back to more than 40 years quickly. He say I at that time 20 a little over, maos of the intersection of head and guy, to tell the truth at that time on attention of me consider, fall in love right away at all, only think wholeheartedly how to work for the country, do something for society more. But because people got married earlier at that time, over 24, my mother is worried, no matter I would like to introduce a target to me. To tell the truth, I did not understand very much either at that time, think the target was the comrade, everybody should respect each other, live in harmony, so with the target on her like this. After probably getting along for half a year, all of us think the marriage partner more suitable, then has got married.
Certainly, we are vivid and substantial persons with the desire too, this period of time in love, excited, but all of us restrained, did not make any thing of overstepping the limit. It is unmarried on " that one " because relatively resented this thing at that time and known ,That trouble is great. Certainly, I think we have so many ideas at first, though lured by some lust, but we have not made mistakes. So I am proud of of that people of ours and me, you see some present young people, just get to know for a few days and is thought to love the other side for being half dead and half alive, " that one " ,it is morals lost,be be detrimental to public moralledded, getting more unreasonable too. I think two in love person together, all right " that one " will certainly be going to marry, firmly .
Indeed, even if sexual standards have already been relatively opened now, but the person who held this old kind of idea of the king had, especially older generation, after all in them in youth, because of common customs and reasons of various fields, sexual standards are not opened as as now far. Everybody resent relatively too to it, a lot of young people dare in person who try before marriage at all. And they have basically all well restrained oneself. As to now sexual standards are relatively opened, they certainly think that can't understand.
B can be considered once in a while before marriage
Mr. Zhao married in 1982, had already stepped into the middle age now, it was a sales director of a company. His view is the men and women's if loved each other wholeheartedly and prepared marriage, also it is unnecessary to inhibit oneself very much, can try for several times before marriage, but should not indulge very much. In fact he himself comes over like this at first.
It is after the Culture Revolution that Mr. Zhao falls in love, shortly after reform and opening-up just now at that time, some western new ideological trend, new idea are entered one after another, people's sexual standards are liberated to some extent too. Zhao fall in love by Mr. and at present madam at this time, they love very dark, two years later, plan to get married. They have not constrained oneself too, after thinking and struggling many times, had eaten and prohibited fruits secretly in three months before getting married at last. The natural all these were hidden from people, has not let people know either, so they have not received many people's censure very much. And they will stride into the marriage palace to relieve oneself with right titles and proper words formally in three months.
Mr. Zhao thinks, people should not be constrained oneself, especially in sex, so long as does not act foolishly, add a bit on the in love basis the sex can be accepted too, but should not overflow very much. As to the thing that some young people cohabit, have a trial marriage,etc. of now he expresses the opposition, because he thinks though sexual standards are relatively opened now, men and women should have sense of duty, so the trying can be accepted on the premise of planning to live together, if except for because of lust need on " That one " It is really unable to accept. Not only responsible for the other side no like this also responsible for oneself no.
View of Mr. Zhao have a lot of people support, they can approve of love person who include basically, however, emphasize that must be on the premise of preparing marriage at the same time, the implication is to shoulder responsibility, can't hand in excessively, regard the sexual love as a trifling matter.
Because C likes the sex gives no cause for much criticism
Xiao this year 25 year old Fang, graduate from university 3 years, make to a programmer in a computer company, have not got married yet now. The he one view is both sides are so long as in love,can well that one,already 21st century in now, sexual standards open already, unnecessary to take notice of, can get married too, have result. Because is so long as in love, even if already determined not to get married, you love the other side in this period at least, so " that one " It is a very normal thing, like after all and the sex is that antithetical couplets are as an organic whole, inalienable, the lacking love is incomplete.
Say so small, do so too. He and incumbent Women Friend cohabit at present, two people knew at a party at that time, both sides feel good, then under the circumstances that Xiao Fang is initiative, two people have sunk into love, because they both relatively open, so two months in the love later, " that one " early (used after a verb to indicate the completion of an action). Xiao Fang says, we can confirm, our both sides are in love, so we have cohabitted. Get along we very well, because think all of us,love should including,otherwise incomplete when loving this. In fact sometimes I think that originally should not distinguish the love and sex on associating in two sexes.
In fact the young people like Xiao Fang are numerous now, their idea is roughly the same too, there are not so many rules and regulations that are fettered in their head, so long as they think that can go to try, even " That one " ,Also just because of this, the phenomenon is numerous that cohabit now, and all already come into the open, do not evade, conceal either.
D expert has completely different view
King old, Zhao Mr., little view of three generations Fang very the same, include most people at the society to the many kinds of views of topic basically, that in love people when permitted on earth " That one " (used at the end of a special alternative, or rhetorical question)? The reporter has interviewed some experts. Specialize in China the intersection of China and ancient the intersection of and cultural the intersection of vice manager and Hu HongXia Dr. of museum of culture think, two adults in love together, if really love the other side deeply, necessity is not constrained, can well " That one " ,May wait until marriage, because everybody is sexual to need. However, need to remind, both sides should have some indispensable sex knowledge, contraception general knowledge, it is not pregnant before marrige because seek happily to cause.
And society's general secretary of Jiangsu Province stored and promised the auspicious professor put forward opposite view on this. He thinks, men and women try the sexual behavior before marriage because viewed from angle of sex aesthetics at first, should place first time life on the newly-married night; By the look of social responsibility, should not recommend the premarital sex either, otherwise there is two major harm: First, pregnant before marrige, this is the most common; Second, disastrous psychologically, it is apt to cause the shade. This causes the shade to be divided into three kinds again psychologically: The first kind is a suspecting type, suspect on the other side's chastity: He (she) Can be so with me, will that and others do so? The second kind is a dallying with type, someone borrows the love and dallies with the opposite sex; The third kind is a compensating type, because there is premarital sex, always feel that owes the other side's after marriage, want to compensate the other side, but actually like to be equal.
Ask about if both sides in love plan to get married, but because there are not house or other reasons temporarily when being unable to get married as the reporter, they could " That one " When, professor Chu still thinks and does not recommend, because has not got the marriage certificate and has not included marriage, the possibility of the accident takes place too later yes. He think true love need, wait, but he tell in produce people of sexual behavior, feel self-humiliation, feel guilty very much before marriage too, pay attention to it just later.
And to the discussion of this topic, the view of the sexologists of China and Sweden is opposite. In Beijing for the previous period, the sexologists of China and Sweden gather and canvass this question, according to the introduction of professor Chu participating in the conference, the Swede only proposes for 15 years old after being ripe, it is all right " That one " ,They are considered by views needed from the free love and sex, and the sexologist of China should put forward in terms of social great environment, sense of duty and sex aesthetics after marriage " That one " . Two sides stick to one's own version, has not reached common understanding finally.


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