The guide of blindlying date teaches me _'s guide of blindlying date how to blindly date
Though perceptual young men and women often hang in the mouth " Fate " Two words, but analyze rationally, have a lot of advantages to blindly date more than the traditional love of the experience type. The traditional love is generally the close classmates with associating at one's side, colleague or the emotion takes place to the playmate, though
Think that it is very deep to understand, but to personal secrets such as the family background, economic situation, may not necessarily communicate candidly really in time. When develop into very deep stage, find the intersection of oneself and question that can't accept originally the other side had a little more, have to just admit at that time, this may bury the shade for emotion in the future. By contrast, making adequate preparation, woman matchmaker (common) Objective and serious blind date again, nearly solve this kind of problem once coming up, have not only link up the time for break-in prevented the psychology from striking in the future sparingly but also.
Say red and naked a bit, marriage one transaction of chip all kinds of in essence, at all times and in all lands all so, emotion and desire are only a catalyst, fuse. Between most men and women, so long as the intimate contacts are long, will produce emotion and physiological desire, depend on emotion at the beginning only, really form happy marriage how much pair does it have for a long time? Whether appearance, bodily form, economic condition, social status, family background, household register,etc. are matched, have determined the long-term stability of the marriage to a great extent. " grow the feeling with the passing of time " It is a thing that should be watched out for to a certain extent, because the feeling in one or two years of the love and feeling of five years, ten years after marriage are different. Has lost curiosity, possessiveness, feeling of freshness in oneself, and after dauntless spirit and sacrifice spirits of some idealism, go to face another spouse whose hard condition did not actually really match, although may not necessarily cause the relation to break, but the psychology is sure not to be too wonderful. So the emotion is before laying a foundation, check on the icy ruler, though might not be very effective, but must not be the bad thing.
Certainly, moral standing, world outlook, values, mode of thinking,etc., it is very central content in the sexual relations too, but these following categories, I'm afraid that it is very difficult to know oneself clearly, moreover, realize the other side in associating short a few years? What's more most men and women are less than mutually ordering all the life at 30 years old, a lot of inherent moral characters did not finalize the design at that time, understood each other even if clear, and how to guarantee to continue unifying harmoniously in the future? Moreover, there is about equal influence on that the other side's personality and disposition are in hard conditions such as education background, job, family,etc., exist some related cause and effect even, this go, realize, try to figure out moral standing and quality of the other side to be more effective and more reliable in the short time than oneself.
So, although the main roads lead to Rome, perhaps the appropriate blind date is to lead to the happy broad and well-paved road for a long time, and thistles and thorns may be more on the road to the happy fate which brings lovers together of water of duckweed.
Blindly date procedure ( One)
A lot of people including me, there is a less than satisfactory blind date experience. The main reason is the purpose and the self-contradictory place has appeared on the means, content and formal arrangement. Some time is that we lack experience, but a lot of people have already too accepted that blindly date in this way, but repel the basic law blindlying date at heart. For example too shy to understand, appear on the stage while being crude and rash fully information, orientate rationally oneself to the intersection of others and choosy terms again, moreover to revealing on websites one's own photo, education background, working, economic terms,etc. are affectedly shy, these do not follow the childish manifestation of game rules. So, having blindlied date more, it is pieces of one's own course of making a reservation rationally on the market of marriage, improve the course of the level of getting along with people by oneself, and even fully understand one's own human nature and course of real demand. As noted previously, the greatest advantage of blindlying date can launch the contacts on the basis of understanding the hard condition effectively in advance. So have information at all collect and communicate, run, it blindlies date to be very intelligently, cause the failure in eight or nine cases out of ten, and injure the party's self-respect and emotion. Follow two principles in preliminary information interchange: Honest and objective + appropriate information issue channel.
The former needn't speak more, but lack sincere consciousness and spirit of obeying game rules in the society overallly at present, must have psychological preparation meet several honest target or woman matchmaker in actual life. Protect the other side while being honest and objective, prevent oneself from add to the worry. Orient the optimistic young friend partially to oneself at ordinary times, it is necessary to reduce self-assessment sedulously at this moment. The latter mainly injures oneself or the other side for preventing the first round from screening. I once worked by giving the wife an introduction, or entrusted the other side (or the other side parents,etc.) in the past Help excuse that I look for a job, obtain resume and photograph (want, let the other side it sees to be out of ulterior motives on purpose certainly each other, otherwise others really place hope on you improper when helping to solve the employment problem) . Thought later it needn't be so troublesome in fact. Even if it is relatives and friends that introduce, can leave pieces of MSN,etc., have a chat first each other first, do BLOG of MSN well by oneself at the same time, the above puts information such as the photo, looks pleasing to the eye stealthily each other, and then both sides ' Or pass a woman matchmaker) Further understand other hard conditions. As for network making friends and marriage-seeking, it is really a very good issue channel. I let others go, watch I advertise for a life partner online message in order to obtain the first-hand materials directly later on. The hard condition is roughly out of question, MSN has a chat all rightly again, it is to meet to connect. I am still very cautious to meeting, because say good-bye to the other side after meeting, the great majority are reasons of the feature, the wife very particularly injures. If fortunately can also stand appearance respect, what is met and discussed? The new hand usually discusses irrelevant things such as weather, amusement,etc., finish, discover and waste for several hours and a pot of payment for tea. More ripely, get married person with strong desire, can discuss working present situation, expectancy of one's own undertaking future, among them can find out this person's working attitude, analytical capacity, expect the intensity etc. oneself. Certainly, young people just entered the society, the most suitable topic was still the life of the school. If education background, working state do not have a common language at all, can totally be combined, but may be the shortcoming of a life to some people. In addition, hobby, social frequency, friend-making attitude, parents' sisters' state,etc. are the question which everybody wants to face straightly, can understand best. Meeting avoids activity of arranging to see the film, bowl etc. most, sheerly waste the time and money for the first time.
Blindly date procedure ' Two)
The appearance question is the bank not getting around while blindlying date. My father adult has proposed in the looks of the swimming pool
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