Make an inventory, have the intersection of happiness and the intersection of men and women and the intersection of age and the intersection of disparity and _'s marriage psychology of sense most
Lead languages: In marriage, husband charge ladies to gentlemen to be loud over the large 4 than wife. As to the difference of men and women's age, people have already become much more tolerant. Nowadays, man 4- 8 years older to seem, can let many people accept calm than women, but age disparity exceeds over 10, will still be reproached.
The best lover's modes of men and women: The wife is 5 years younger than the husband
An investigation that European scientists do reveals, age influences a steady key weight of marriage. Britain Emanuel, university of Bath, does not draw Buddhist nun doctor go on one track investigating to 1534 to lover, the result reveals, the strong best lover's mode which maintain the marriage can be that the men and women have received higher education and had no history of divorcing, over 5 elder than the wife of the husband at the same time.
The researcher claims, the wife is younger than the husband not to produce the age association of the contradiction easily most over 5, their divorce rate is 1/6 of other marriages. In addition, a finding of University of Vienna, if the husband is 4- 6 years older than the wife, children bearing it are most; And the husband is 15 years older than the wife, though bear children there is little quantity, marriage life is the happiest.
Three major happiness of marriage drawn by age are clicked
As to this, the expert says: Three major happiness of this kind of marriage are clicked, has become family's firm pillars. First happiness is clicked, meet women " the Trinity " Hope. Usually, the charming prince who women dreamt of has father's maturity, the elder brother's care and the friend's vigor concurrently. And the husband is older, the psychology is riper, the emotion is offered more freely.
The second happiness is clicked, the old husband usually has certain economic base, have reduced the probability that the dispute takes place because of economy. Some of third happiness, there are few family's competitions. The husband is annual and long, women will grow and send out and depend on the sense and obey the sense, reduce the competition of the right among couple naturally, thereupon rub the reduction.
If talked about the inferior position of this kind of marriage, generally speaking, the male average life span was originally shorter than women, if the husband is much older than the wife, it probably will be that the husband will let go in the man's world finally, the wife keeps alone lonelily.
The big man of the woman is young and happy too
As the saying goes " The woman embraces the gold brick three times big " ,In ancient times in our country, there is a phenomenon of the big wife's little husband frequently too. Now nowadays, the love affair between sister and brother is still a line of a lot scenery on marriage map. The expert says, in fact some families of love affair between sister and brother are very happy too, some men though age is small, but mental age is very ripe, and though its wife is a bit older, mental age still looks like a young girl.
Such a family, say, it is similar to follow the young family mode of the big woman of men from psychology. Family of other love affairs between sister and brother, it is the husbands that all possess the characteristics of similar makings, namely man's not independence, want to continue looking for the feeling which mother takes good care of. As to such a family, there will often be some drawbacks. First of all, no matter from physiologically or psychologically, women are faster old and feeble, but men are still in vigorous year, it is apt to make the family non- firm.
Secondly, age has social effects, in the social assessment sanctified by usage, and censure that the love affair between sister and brother is apt to let people not understand, or belittle men " no the man " ,Women in other words " The old ox eats the browse " Wait a moment, the speech of outside will cause assaulting to the enclosure of the family too to a certain extent.
Men and women are of the same age in order to communicate
49 -year-old US President's Palestinian horse and wife Michel's age looks are with 3 years' difference now, the happy marriage in 17 is enough to put them under " Ideal lover " Ranks. Think dawn, long for of the same age in the east in department's associate professor's high mountain of social science of Chinese University of Hong Kong, it is not that what we understood is narrowly-defined and of the same age, but ages of both sides are very much the same, it is the same as a generation to basically belong to.
Men and women are of the same age men are the same age as women or men are older and under the age of 3 than women. Can say so, in the modern's idea, this kind of marriage mode is undoubtedly the most ideal. High mountain east get out of the foundation that longs for of the same age lies in loving both sides and keeping the same with physiological coordination in the psychology dawn, this kind of marriage is the most sustainable and most expansionary, have six major advantages.
First, easy to establish intimate relation. Second, interdynamic and frequent. Third, grow up synchronously. Fourth, the demand is unanimous. Fifth, relatives and friends support. Sixth, equal and self-confident. In a word, the social experience between the lovers of the same age is similar, it is often apt to unite as one while meeting the problem concerning life, and long-term break-in will make the thinking of both sides merge even more, the heart has magic horns, forms the common cognitive mode.
"Though men and women have a great deal of advantages of the same age, because equal exactly will present some questions. " The intersection of kingdom and honour say, speak equal forming righting, competing very much while being easy among the of the same age couple, may frequent will for " Who has the final say on " And fight endlessly.
The more affectionate the personality crosses the picture
The above-mentioned three kinds of marriage modes are all excellent and bad, age is really playing an important role in the marriage, but that really determined the marriage stability or not is not age. " First of all, " LOVE " in English Come from compression of a sentence of Latin, " it is a lasting concern to others' life to love " in this sentence of Latin .
This says true essence of couple's love, that is to only love companion, pay close attention to external condition, whom only we often say " the height is not the question, age is not a question, the feature is not a question " . The less the external condition require, the more the love is stabilized.
Secondly, study to reveal, the personality is the more close the love is stabilized. People refer to complemental between often said couple, but want to have oneself but No, but the spouse possesses, this one kind appreciates, but not the personality try to go south by driving the chariot north.
Finally, should have indentity. First, after getting married, there is idea integrated in the other side soon; Second, the values should be about equal in schooling and life. These determine the inherent factor or not of the marriage stability.
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