White collar couple tear up " The extramarital relation agreement "

White collar couple tear up " The extramarital relation agreement "
Ida and Jiang ShiMing are both the white collar of one overseas-funded enterprise in Harbin. 4 years ago, when they got married for not limiting the other side's freedom each other, signed a " extramarital relation agreement " ,Claim while two people are maintaining the marriage, if one party has extramarital relations, another party can't interfere. This move of theirs had caused big dispute in relatives and friends at that time. 4 years after this agreement is signed later, but a sudden incident makes them tear up that agreement Jiang ShiMing: The open marriage accepted the extramarital relation I met Ida in 1996, at that time, I have been already 31 years old. I had once had a transient marriage, the reason to fail was my extramarital relation. In the second half of wedding, I meet a girl, it is the university students who the company which I belong to recruited newly, perhaps it is a reason to work together together, the love has happened soon to us. Say honestly, I do not hope this love will influence my marriage, say from the heart, I love former wife deeply, do not want to injure her at all, but does not want to finish the extramarital relation either, I think the best method is to maintain my marriage state, let my extramarital relation not discovered by the former wife as much as possible at the same time. Have stuffy wall in the world, former wife can't tolerate I to she a little betrayal. Under her insistance, I have become a single, lose the property, cause and condemn. On those days, it was not merely the woman that I understood injury of extramarital relation at last, the man will pay the heavy cost too for this. Then I begin so-called illusion " The open marriage " ,I swear to look for an open modish wife secretly, can tolerate my unpredictable extramarital relation involuntarily. Certainly, for being fair, I will relent her extramarital relation too. That is to say, one day, even if we are no longer in love, but the marriage can also exist, because I have courage really and energy go toss about one and a half of break marriage that come on again also, it is under this kind of psychology, I have run into Ida. Ida: " extramarital relation agreement " Pay bright the intersection of mood and I can realize empty generation such as river such as marriage, because I oneself witness such experience. I lived with my mother while as a child, she was a melancholy woman, my father was a government functionary, he and mother are so very early as to divorce. The reason is mother's extramarital relation. She is before knowing father, once a boyfriend of first love was called Gao Xiang, in she and tall auspicious a lot of years in love, but marry father occupying an important position finally. At the intersection of I and 3 year old, one chance of chance, mother and high to meet once again while being auspicious. Only once, father finds overstepping the limit of mother. The result of this extramarital relation is: Mother has chosen singly. Witness difficulty of mother, I think when I come into the marriage, I can in the face of with another posture, I have seen too much incoherent marriages, understand the biggest killer of the marriage is the extramarital relation, and it is tolerant to safeguard the best method of the marriage. Get married, I and ShiMing Jiang had one deep and sincere talk, ShiMing Jiang say to me: "Ida, you have seen, a lot of marriages are merely nominal in the modern's marriage, we accept person of higher education, choose marriage, why want, let marriage fetter oneself? " I agree his idea, the family in order to make the content that we discuss unable to influence us after marriage, Jiang ShiMing and I write down such an agreement. Stipulate as follows: First, both sides, in order to maintain the existing marriage, motivated by a desire to understand and accommodate with one another, sign this agreement together. Second, if one party has the extramarital relation, in addition one party can't interfere, let alone regard this as the reason and put forward requirement and even partition requirement to the other side and divorce. Three, I and ShiMing Jiang sign behind the word, will it be autumn 1997, we get married, that year the intersection of I and 26 year old, he is 32 years old, all of us need this kind of form with the marriage to earn some realistic things for us: Such as parents' comfort, facility on the undertaking,etc.. The marriage just began to be calm, but in second year, he met a girl making him moved, that evening, he did not go home I certainly envy Jiang ShiMing's extramarital relation. Though I do not think the love mean occupying, it is still uncomfortable in the heart. It may be out of vindictive psychology! A few days later, I accepted the invitation of a painter having a good impression on me too Jiang ShiMing: Life and death is savoured in the twinkling of an eye interdependently I feel Ida's revenge, pre-marital we thirst for " open marriage " ,In the face of opening, but we are unable to be " free and easy " . Has maintained for 2 years like this, gradually, all of us begin to feel tired, because of " extramarital relation agreement " ,Our marriage is beyond cure. Not long ago, Ida and I were on business to Weihai, found time to us and headed out and played by ship, we are all clear in the heart, perhaps this is the day that we stay together finally. After the ship walks out 300 sea miles, broke down suddenly - -The oil pump machine in the cabin is on fire. The adult screams at one time, the child cries and screams, is another " Titanic " . At that time, the hope of seeking survival was slim. Ida who looks pale embraces me, says crying: "Will we die? " I comfort her and say: " don't be afraid, I am here that have, want to die, we go together! " She says crying I am sorry I, shouldn't have a extramarital relation, she says actually she loves me. Flowing through sincerity made in my heart warm and moved in a period of time, Ida says: "If we still can alive back, tear that damnable ' extramarital relation agreement ' OK? " I nod, have embraced her tighter. That is really a special moment, if not because death closes on, the interdependent feeling before not because that kind of death comes, how can I realize the woman in my chest should worth my waiting carefully in all one's life actually? Ida: Choosing the marriage to mean taking care of each other all one's life, we have drifted about for a dozen hours on the sea. During this time, I and generation are bright to embrace it together tightly, we have remembered for a lot of time in the past, insist on not eating last any grain each other Until the steamer rescuing the risk succeeds in rescuing us and debarking. That " extramarital relation agreement " Destroy us, speak frankly after going through that disaster generation, clear to choose the marriage, the next promise that make: From now on, no matter what is faced, you should be with he (she) The happiness of sharing life together is sad, for he (she) Happiness struggle. Because in this world, have only, he (she) Could not only love your youth to be young, the ones that love you at the same time are white Send and float. The above are undoubtedly the bright individual privacy of Jiang Shi and me, but we would like to explain out, want to let the friend who we went through like this more know: It is bright for marriage and family, keep away from the extramarital relation!

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